Survival of the Kindest: Stories of Compassion

By Lia Mandelbaum

This past January I wrote an article for the NASW newsletter about a profound intervention taking place around the globe, called the Compassion Games: Survival of the Kindest, and how they were implemented for the first time at a prison, the California Institution for Women (CIW), located in Corona.

At the heart of the Compassion Games’ purpose is the belief that within each of us exists an innate, powerful and ready kindness. The women at CIW were a poignant example of this truth as eight of their housing units agreed to compete for the greater good through a “co-opetition.” During the 11-day period, 4,600 acts of compassion were recorded through a shared measurement system, and there were no reports of violence.

CIW was very courageous for being a pioneer in implementing this rehabilitative intervention. It was wonderful news to hear that CIW plans on hosting the Games again this year and set an example.

Bringing the Games to the Los Angeles Unified School District
As a first-year MSW student at CSULA, I interned as a psychiatric social worker at the Roybal Learning Center, which is a high school located in downtown Los Angeles. I shared the NASW newsletter article with my supervisor, Cherie Hudson, LCSW, PPSC, and after reading it she was immediately inspired to challenge Roybal students and staff with the mission of cooperating to compete for the greater good of the school community.

Before you knew it, our team of social workers, which included the other MSW interns Karina Rivera and Nicole Rodriguez, began developing an infrastructure, programming, a shared measurement system, school-wide involvement and outreach to supporters, including Monica Garcia, who represents Board District 2 with LAUSD.

Student leadership came up with three school-wide activities: a compassion pledge, a compassion rush and a gratitude wall. We appointed students into leadership roles, with the title “Compassion Guide and Peacemaker.” Student involvement is key!

We developed a shared measurement system using our Titan Tokens to record the acts of kindness. A count was submitted at the end of each week by all four of the “cooperating” learning academies. Announcements were made over the school intercom, during meetings and in the classrooms, and packets were made up explaining the Games and distributed. Roybal became the first school in LAUSD to host the Games.

Planting Seeds
Our goal was to help create a culture of compassion, which is obviously not a transformation that occurs overnight. As soon as the Games began, it became clear to me that one of our biggest hurdles was the significant uncertainly of what compassion is. It was critical to have discussions with students that would add a greater depth and understanding about kindness and empathy.

Several presentations by outside speakers discussed compassion in its many forms. Because a good deal of the students are personally impacted by our criminal justice system through a friend or family member who is/was incarcerated, I thought it would be great to bring in a criminal defense attorney and human rights activist, who would talk about people who are incarcerated in a way that isn’t dehumanizing, and how there is a tremendous need for more compassion in our criminal justice system.

Another speaker explored compassion through music by examining popular songs from a variety of genres, and how different artists have reached out to people through lyrics and melodies of compassion, hope and solidarity. This was a popular topic, especially amongst the males. I had been concerned about male participation due to the stigma of how compassion can be seen as a sign of weakness, but I was touched by how they showed tremendous insight and vulnerability by being open with their feelings. One male student described the Games as a way to “wear your feelings on the outside.”

I brought in a Muslim woman and a Jewish woman to co-lead an Islam and Judaism 101 course from a lens of compassion to give students exposure to other cultures. A couple of students shared that they weren’t aware a woman could be a Muslim or a Rabbi. The women gave a powerful message, because although these two people are from groups that are commonly seen as enemies, they showed the students how they too are capable of showing compassion and solidarity.

Another speaker discussed conflict resolution and how having compassion and understanding for “the other” is important. I purposely placed her in a specific classroom to address a chronic issue with bullying between two students. Similar to many other bullies, this student had a lot of really painful challenges going on at home, and was transferring her pain. Although I didn’t give the other student any details of her situation, after the presentation she said to me that she wished the bullying student would tell her what’s going on so that she could be there for her. It was her empathy and desire to understand that helped her to personalize less and better cope with the situation.

The movement to promote compassion continues as we have received wonderful support, especially from the Los Angeles Department of Mental Health, to bring the Compassion Games to schools and other various institutions throughout the city and beyond.

Setting the Bar
For some students, what inspired them to compete was the desire to put a positive message out there about their community. Roybal is a high school that sits in an area where there is large concentration of gang activity. One student said with conviction, “I want show others that Pico Union isn’t just a bunch of pickpockets, and that we too can be a compassionate community.” During the Games, students felt like they were a part of something bigger than themselves.

These students should feel incredibly proud that they not only helped to set the bar of what it means to be a compassionate community, but we also co-created a movement to make our communities safer, kinder, more just, and better places to live.

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Lia Mandelbaum is a social work student at Cal State Los Angeles.